Let’s be honest—nothing can throw us off our spiritual game like someone who just gets under our skin.

You know the type: they say the wrong thing, look at you sideways, or just show up and your energy shifts. Irritation. Judgment. Even rage. And before you know it, your zen is out the window, and you’re questioning your entire path.

But what if I told you… the people who trigger you are not a problem to fix—but a portal?

Here’s the truth: we’re not reacting to them. We’re reacting to ourselves.

More specifically, to the parts of ourselves we’ve tucked away in the shadow—the pieces we’ve labeled as unworthy, too much, too loud, too needy, too intense, too “whatever.” These are the unclaimed parts of us, and when we see them reflected in someone else, they demand to be felt.

Not to punish us, but to come home.

Why You Get Triggered (It’s Not What You Think)

When we get upset, it’s not always because the other person is doing something “wrong.” Often, it’s because they’re activating something unacknowledged within us. Anger, fear, irritation—these aren’t random emotions. They’re signs pointing to unprocessed energy that wants your attention.

Your body is saying, “Hey, this is still here. Can you love me through it?”

When we reject someone’s energy, we’re usually rejecting something we’ve rejected in ourselves first.

So What Do We Do With That?

I’m not saying you need to hug every person who triggers you (boundaries are real and sacred). But I am saying this: create space within yourself. Not to judge, not to fix, but to witness.

Try this instead:

• Pause. Take a breath. Notice what’s happening in your body.
• Get curious. Ask yourself, “What part of me is being mirrored right now?”
• Hold space. Imagine wrapping that feeling in warmth and breath. Let it be seen.
• Don’t rush. Transmutation isn’t a race. It’s a return.

The magic happens not when you get over the emotion, but when you let it pass through you.

This is Energy Work—The Real Kind

This is what I call sacred witnessing. It’s not just about emotional intelligence. It’s energetic alchemy. When you hold space for the energy that’s arising—in yourself and in others—you’re not just regulating your nervous system. You’re rewriting your soul’s relationship to itself.

And yes—it can be hard. But it’s also liberating.

Because the more space you create within, the less space you hold for judgment, rejection, or resentment. You stop needing people to behave a certain way to feel okay. You become the space.

The Shift: From Reaction to Gratitude

You don’t have to engage with everyone who triggers you. You don’t have to stay in every relationship. You do get to choose.

But before you walk away, see what that person came to teach you.

They may be annoying. They may be disruptive. But on a soul level, they are your teacher. And sometimes, the lesson is simply this:

“I am worthy of being seen—every part of me. Even the parts I thought I had to hide.”

And when you accept that, the energy shifts.

That’s the transmutation. That’s the gift.

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